Make Meaningful Connections on Campus Tips from United Methodist Campus Chaplains

Have you made it to college but are surprised to feel lonely and isolated among a campus full of fellow students? Whether attending a small private school or sprawling university, many students find it difficult to make meaningful connections. These tips and tricks from campus chaplains at United Methodist-related schools across the country will help you not only survive but thrive.

Be yourself.

Edwin Ferguson, the chaplain at North Carolina Wesleyan University, urges students to be themselves. “Several students will try to assimilate into the larger group, hang around, and/or imitate those who may get more attention,” he says. “Even though there are some things you’re still learning about yourself, understand that you are enough. When you’re comfortable in your shoes, it will become easier to make meaningful connections. You’ll discover who you vibe with and who will add to your life.”

Reach out.

When feeling lonely, it can be easy to isolate in the comfort of your dorm room or apartment. Rev.Dr. Beverly L Wilkes-Null, McKendree University’s chaplain, suggests reaching out instead. “Give yourself permission to explore,” she encourages. Her suggestions include asking the Student Affairs Office about opportunities and, if you enjoy it, seek out opportunities to serve in the community.

Find a faith community.

Campus ministries provide invaluable opportunities to connect with other students while strengthening your faith. Greensboro College’s Campus Chaplain and Assistant Professor of Religion, Robert Brewer, agrees. “Go to chapel worship or weekly services and meet other students in the service or those leading it,” he advises. Your campus ministers or other faculty and staff can also share with you how to meet others and connect with students in their areas.

Expand your circle.

Most college and university campuses are populated by adults between 18-23 years old. While it’s important to make friends with peers, expanding your circle can richen your connections. “It can be really fun to be surrounded by peers of a similar age, but it can also be limiting,” says Kendra Grimes, Chaplain and Director of Church Relations at Randolph-Macon College. “I remind our students how meaningful it is to regularly see young children, to have friendships with people the age of their grandparents, and to not simply exist in a bubble of young adults while in college.” To connect with people of all ages, consider attending worship at a church near campus or volunteer with community organizations.

Don’t spend this semester feeling alone. Pick from these helpful tips and take a step toward making meaningful connections today!